Father Daughter Date Night
I take Nalani, my 10 year old little girl, on a special date every year and recently started going out once or twice a month. I’ve been doing this since she was 7 years old and I plan on doing it until Jesus takes me off of this planet.
WHY FATHER DAUGHTER DATE NIGHT?
It’s important for me to be a major influence in my daughter’s life. I want her to feel connected, loved, safe and special to me. I want her to feel like she can talk to me, even though I know she will choose not to at times and the only way I can do that is by investing as much time into her as I can right now .I want her to grow up and look back and see that I’ve always desired to spend time with her no matter how crazy or hectic our lives were, I always made time to spend with just her.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
Before anything else, make the time a priority. Dads, if you are not intentional about it then it will never happen. No father accidently spends time with their kids.
1) Nalani is now 10 it’s just now getting to where it isn’t weird. It is a little awkward to sit with them and watch them eat when you’re out. You have no idea what to talk about, you have no idea what is going on in their minds, you can’t discuss current events with them. It’s weird. But it’s really worth pushing through the weirdness because one day, when they are able to have a conversation, you won’t be a stranger because you’ve always been there.
2) When Nalani and I are out and about and spending time together, that’s what we do, spend time together. Don’t allow people to corner you and begin talking to you about the “good old days” or get caught up with hanging out with the boys. Be a soldier when it comes to protecting the time with your daughter and I do not ever want her to feel second place to anything or anyone else. One more thing on this…we always speak to people on our date if they chat with us. I want to teach Nalani how to meet new people and be kind.
3) No cell phone. Dads, sitting in a restaurant with your kid and talking on a cell phone, texting or being on facebook/twitter is not spending time with them!
Just a few of the why’s and how’s that have worked for me. I am nowhere near being the perfect dad; On most days I struggle in my mind with whether or not I am doing a good job. But God’s call on my life is to be a follower of Him, a husband, and a dad – in that order.
Dad’s… Don’t waste those early years with your kids! Take hold of them!



